Friday, May 28, 2010

A lot of things to do and no time to do it

The shit that hit the fan...No... let me rephrase this... The shit that's gonna hit the fan.

We have been trying to work with the kids about doing chores to earn things that they want to do. I am going to be known as "total BITCH mama" for the next oh lets see... 3 months?

I have taken on ALL of the responsibility in the house. The kids are on "strike" and so that's fine, but come hell over high water they better not even ask me for a stick of gum.

One of the kids were supposed to go to a sleep over tonight; and as soon as it is an appropriate time to call the parent to let them know that this child will not be attending it will be done. I am tired of having my kids back me into a corner. I had to RSVP for the dang thing back on Tuesday. At least I was smart enough to explain in a nice manner that if my child does not do what she needs to she would not be coming. She backed me into a corner by telling me she would do all of her chores for the week and that she would be on her best behavior. HUH! Hey does taking a clothes hanger, bending it until it breaks, then bending a piece into 2 pieces, then thrashing it at mom count for good behavior? I am just checking because she stated she would be on her best behavior and I am SURE she would not want that done to her! So momma will be putting the foot down and calling her off from the party she was to attend after school today.

And it's not just her. It seems that EVERYONE has taken off on strike. Another child of mine begged for extra chores to make up points for her sleep over that was to take place Saturday to Sunday. She did the extra chores, but not the regular ones. She will not be attending.

We have an issue with hair. We have extremely long hair and no one seems to know how to keep it up. One child has an issue because I refuse to purchase anymore conditioner. One bottle usually holds me over a couple of months, but for this child she thinks that she can use ONLY conditioner and no shampoo. This left her hair looking really greasy and like she never washes it. It does not help with well water! SOOOO.... Momma got a bug up her butt last night and took every hair product out of the bathroom EXCEPT shampoo and MOMMA washed and scrubbed everyone's head last night. Momma did not care how loud, long, or who heard the screaming. Momma then sat and brushed everyone's hair and made sure it all was taken care of. The screaming only hurt my ears until the lovely mp3 player with earbuds came into play. Oh and Momma has made appointments for hair cuts and everyone's hair will be chopped at least shoulder length.

Yes, Momma struck on Wednesday also. Momma ticked off a child who thought that it was okay to rush through homework, not show work, and to write so bad I could not even read it. This was pre-school writing people! Momma got angry and made said child sit at the table and re-write the homework (without the calculator- I am positive that if they ask to see work they wanna see you use the calculator that the good Lord gave you) until ALL work was shown and that ALL of the answers would be easy to be found and that it was legible. Three re-writes and 2 hours later, Homework was about 95% better. Bad Momma!

With the last paragraph in mind, momma will be going to the home school store and purchasing books for the summer. My dear wonderful delightful children will be so happy to hear and see that I have come up with a homeschooling program for summer :O) I will need to go this weekend to pick these items up. I am looking for basic language arts, math, and we will be going to the library to choose books to read and then they will have book reports to write every week. Hey! they will have all the time in the world with their toys locked up and no chores they are required to do, right?

So the agenda for today is packed. While I would sooo enjoy going and hiding in a blanket and catching the much needed sleep I so desire at this point, with only having a very long weekend with the kids home and DH here up my tush and around the corner as well. Today's agenda; making a shopping list, planning meals for the next week, mopping and sweeping(and vaccuming) every room, cleaning the kids rooms; making their beds, taking toys out and sorting through them and locking them up, catching up 3 loads of laundry; 2 loads of which need to be hung outside; and starting to re-organize the garage so I can get things out for the yard sale tomorrow. Not to mention I need to run 4 towns over and pick up items for the yard sale after 4PM today as well.

I foresee a lot of changes coming up and into play for my family. Some changes they will not like. Some changes I will not like. I will be a total and complete bear to be around. I have already told my oldest daughter that I love her but I loathe what she does and how she acts. I am hoping a summer with nothing to do will bring her around. I am considering taking her out of school and away from her friends and homeschooling anyways, but really this summer will tell all.

Thanks for listen to me rant and rave.

Da Cashew

Thursday, May 27, 2010

We have been working on the blog...

This is a test to see if this tweets

Sunday, May 23, 2010

About the Cashew...

I like being a cheapskate; trying to get a good deal, to have fun, laugh it up a bit. I would love to have a chance to get drunk off my tush and have people around me that will laugh with me and I can spill my guts to because I can't control my mouth when I start drinking.

I am avidly stuck to the computer, ya know that's where all my friends live. I would love to be brave enough to do and say things that are on my mind. Yes I pee in the shower; I have found I have better hair when I only wash it 2-3 times a week. I put my used plates on the floor for the animals to clean up before washing them in the dishwasher.

I am a night owl. I can be a hoot with no sleep; when my moodiness does not take over. I like "me" time and I try to stash as much me time as I possibly can.

I like all kinds of people. I like people who are serious, who are fun to be around, who have different thoughts than I do, that are going through the same things I am or have been. I cannot stand to be around people who are not considerate and walk all over people. I hate to find friends who "pretend" to be friends, then do something against what you believe in then turn the whole thing over that it's your fault.

When I find out what people are like I get judgmental when they hurt me and I refuse to forgive them easily; with sometimes as much as 20 years passing before forgiving.

I wish I would have listened more to those in my life that made sense out of life. I wish I could have been more open to "keeping my options" open and living my life more fuller than what it was.

I can make scrambled eggs, french toast, and bacon really well, but don't dare step into my kitchen and ask me to make fried eggs over easy or omelets.

I feel embarrassed with no clothing on; and I often feel ackward having sex with the windows open or without the radio or TV on to hinder the noise.

I often tell my kids they cannot do things I do because I hate myself for the things they wish they could do that I currently do!

Da Cashew....

It was easier being single. . .

but I wouldn’t say that is better.

It was easier being single because I didn’t have to think of others in the same way as I do now.  I could make decisions about when to go to bed, where to eat supper and when to buy groceries.

It was easier being single because I didn’t have to share my things with others in the same way as I do now.  My computer was MINE.  My desk was MINE.  My vehicle was MINE.  MINE. MINE. MINE.

It was easier being single because I only had dishes and laundry and clean up for ONE.  ME.  I didn’t have to spend hours in the kitchen or at the sink, unless I wanted to be there.  I didn’t have to fold every single item, but I did anyway, because it was easy.  I could take out a project, work on it, and leave it there.  Because it was just me.

I could wear what I wanted to bed.  I could shower in the morning or whenever I pleased.  I could watch chick flicks and cry.  I could go to ladies’ nights out or in.


I don’t think so.  Because . . .

I would have become a very very selfish person, more selfish than I am today.  I would not love the way I love.  I would not be in the community as I am now in the community.  I would not be a part of my church as I am a part of my church.  I would not have become the perosn God wanted me to become.

Being married is better because there is someone there to warm my bed.  There is a shoulder to cry on.  There is a ready friend with open arms. 

There are children to make me smile.  Children love to learn and in their learning they teach me so very much.  Children love life and teach me to love life as well.

Being married is better because I don’t have to eat out alone.  There is someone to share my dessert with when I ordered too much supper.  Being married makes the work in the kitchen worth the time and the effort.

Being married introduced me to coffee.  Oh how I love coffee.  I doubt that I would have tried and enjoyed it if I had never gotten married.

Being married causes me to grow and think and develop.  My brain is better because of my marriage.  (Some days I think my brain is mush, but I know that I know more, because of my relationships with my husband and children and community.)

Being married causes to get out in the community and yet allows me to be home where I love to be.  Being married has balanced me more than I ever thought possible.

I have so far to go.  Today has been a rough day; I am a very angry and loud person.  I am mean to those around (and those closest to) me.  I need even more balance and more development and more learning.  Without my husband, I don’t know that I would see these areas of needed growth as easily or as quickly.

Being single may have been easier, but being married is much better.

Saturday, May 22, 2010

I love Aprons and their many uses

I found this today in my Google reader.  I’ve used my apron for many similar uses.  I need more aprons.

A Frugal Alternative to Paper Products

To most people, vintage aprons are a either fashion statement, or we wear them to protect our clothes while cooking and working. However, have you ever thought about these uses? Consider using your apron to...

1. Remove hot cookie sheets from the oven
2. Wipe away your children’s tears
3. Dry the inside of a freshly washed glass
4. Carry in fresh herbs from the garden
5. Cover your hair when it starts to drizzle
6. Dust the furniture
7. Wipe up kitchen drips and spills
8. Allow your kids run and hide underneath it
9. Clean the bathroom mirror
10. As a prayer tent like Susannah Wesley


Posted by e-Mom at Susannah's {Kitchen} Aprons, a retro-chic vintage apron e-store.


Until next time,

The Lovely Lioness

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Sex is a mind thing for men too

One of my biggest pregnancy complaints there last two pregnancies is the yeast infections I get and can’t seem to get rid of no matter what I try.  I’ve tried the Canesten and the natural methods.  I’ve tried probiotic and other things; everything I can think of short of not eating carbs.  I need the carbs for energy.

Anyway, these infections have an impact on our sex life!  I am a sex-aholic when I’m pregnant (and maybe most of the other time too, but I don’t know for sure).  I can. not. get. enough!  Because we don’t wanna pass this yeast back and forth between the two of us we try to get creative in our love making.

All this is a preface for the following:

Last night in one of our creative “sessions” as I had just discovered (confirmed) that the yeast had once again returned, my husband went limp.  I kinda figured he’d just given up and may not even want me to continue what I was doing, but I persevered and he got back into action and we “finished”.  When we were snuggling after he says, “The real thing is soooo much better.”  I had to agree.

Then this morning I asked him about what had happened; I said, “It seemed like you gave up last night.”  He re-iterated what he’d said before.  It’s just not as fun.  His mind was not in the game.

So it’s not just us ladies that have to mentally prepare for sexual activity.  If his mind is not in it, his body won’t be either.  As frustrating at this can be, having this bit of knowledge is comforting too.

On to my second point of this post:

WHAT DO WE DO????  How can I get rid of this thing?  How do we have intercourse without passing the yeast infection between us?  How often during pregnancy can I use a OTC treatment?  I’m not in agony or itching like crazy.  It’s like the infection is just kinda sitting there under the surface, ready to explode into full battle mode if I turn my back for a moment and let down my guard and defence.

Sunday, May 16, 2010


Saturday, May 15, 2010

My Favourite Things

These are the things that I love:

  • COFFEE!!
  • raspberries!
  • books, mostly non-fiction
  • babies
  • Dr. William Sears and his wife, Martha
  • free stuff!
  • clothes, fresh outdoor smell (from hanging on the line)
  • Survivor
  • Dexter
  • Paypal
  • Windows Live Writer
  • Huggies diapers

Friday, May 14, 2010

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Hannah Montana – role model or not?

In my opinion, she is not a good role model for my 4 little girls.  She will not be watched any longer.  I am “banning” the Family (a Disney station) from my TV!  My children do not need any help with the ATTITUDE, the EYE-ROLLING, the FOOT-STOMPING!  Besides the roll model issue – THEY ARE SO ANNOYING!!!!

I have actually been using my library system to “rent” (actually borrow) DVDs for them to watch.  Currently they are watching a lot of the LeapFrog series and Thumbelina but I think I may put a stop to this one too because as I type I hear ATTITUDE and ENTITLEMENT!  We struggle with that entitlement attitude enough around here because my children are given so much stuff!  (As a side, one issue I have with the LeapFrog video - Talking Letter Factory is lying, but we just discussed the issue and I allow them to watch it; such a valuable teaching resource.)

What role models are out there that are GOOD and RIGHT and GODLY roll models for our daughters?  Do you let your children watch and listen to Hannah Montana???

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Do You Ever Wish . . . .

you could sit around naked?
you could swim in the nude in your backyard?
your kids would STAY IN BED????
your hubby would jump your bones in the middle of the afternoon?
your bills would pay themselves?
the kitchen would clean itself?
the laundry would go through the steps to get back into the drawers?

Until next time,

Lovely Lioness

Monday, May 10, 2010

Who is Creative Cashew..

Creative Cashew has a "different" kind of personality. She likes to be a smart ass. She uses the smart ass attitude to hide her emotions, then when the emotions get to be too much she explodes. There is only so much one can take, and when she can't take it anymore she either shuts down or explodes. Adding so much as someone asking for a glass of water can sometimes push her over the edge.

She is also the type that goes nuts with no routine. She has to have a routine, and usually there really hasn't been one in about 4 years. She has lost her identity, and she really does not know what makes her happy anymore. Her regular routine seems to come in waves; one minute she knows what's going on, then the next her home is out of control.

Da Casheww loves to get involved with projects, sometimes to the point that it's too much and she does not like it. She is like a total ADHD person, always has to have a project to flip to when she has other things going on and really don't have time for them.

CC shows her love and appreciation for things by doing things for others; then she is really let down then when people don't appreciate it. She has a hard time dealing with others that shows affection by touches. She also has a hard time fitting in with other women, and sometimes her best friends are online so that she can stay hidden in the confines of her house because she feels that others don't appreciate her in the community and feels like other women that are somewhat (or should be) close look down upon her. She hides her feelings from these people with avoidance and hides her hurt underneath her anger. Her tears keep her up at night and really it effects her sleep and moods too much. She would love to tell these people to shove off, that she puts her pants on just like any other woman and does not understand why others don't see her for who she is. CC would love to take the opportunity to tell these people off, but because of circumstances that would effect her loved ones or others she cares about she feels she cannot. She also gets very defensive when others attack a family member, loved one or a dear friend- though she will blow up behind closed doors; another hidden mechanism to not get others into a situation that may not be the best situation for them.

Other times Da Casheww can get bold and gutsy, but usually she does it without thinking and then has to deal with the consequences. She likes to stand for what she believes in and sometimes feels that it's her against the world. It gets to the point that she realizes there is not really anything to be done about it, backs into her house to not come out and backs away from the whole situation completely, though she still feels the hurt, anger and anguish; and that's once again there to hide her emotions about the situation.

The song that shows Cashew's feelings the most is "The Broken Road" because it makes her remember what led her to where she is now. If it were not for past events in her life, she would not be who she is today.

Creative loves her children very much; however it is sometimes hard to show that and the mean Mommy comes out and the children hate that side of her. She believes she has "assisted" her children to the point that they depend on her too much and also believes in "tough love" though sometimes she throws a fork into the trail and tries to help her kids through it. She is learning to let things go and to let the kids experience tough love or natural consequences on their own. She wants her kids to be like wolves... dependent only on themselves, but still has the "pack" or siblings to fall back on.

Da Casheww also believes in a "GOD" or Higher power. With her being part Indian she wishes she knew that portion of her life more and she has had many different types of religion in her life; one that turned completely on her and she really would like to return to a church but feels reluctant because of events taken from years before. She is confused with her religious beliefs, though she truly knows that she believes.

More about me to follow after she has time to actually digest the feelings I have let flow.


Sunday, May 9, 2010

I would love to own this dog!

Whether you own a dog or not, you must appreciate the efforts of this owner to sell her dog. Read the sales pitch below.....

Dog For Sale

Free to good home. Excellent guard dog. Owner can no longer afford to feed him as there are no more drug pushers, thieves, murderers, or molesters left in the neighborhood for him to eat. Most of them knew Jethro only by his Oriental street name, Ho Lee Schitt.

If anyone can get an address or phone number I would greatly appreciate it!

Da Cashewww

Saturday, May 8, 2010


Thursday, May 6, 2010


Wednesday, May 5, 2010

January AGAIN

Okay, I cry in the shower. I guess it is because it is the only alone time and free time I seem to have. But last night it was BAAAAD. January came up again! (January is the thirty days in which my hubs decided it would be alright for him to text an old girlfriend 376 times!!!!) I cried my eyes out! I try so hard to let it go then something pops into my head and …. POOF that’s it! Balling my eyes out. So I got up the nerve to talk to him. I went to him and said, “I need your help. I am having a hard time right now.” Then came the tears. Albeit the man never reacts but I think I may have made myself heard. Not much has changed though but I am still hopeful. Damn when is this heartache going to end???? OR IS IT???

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

I pee in the shower and other things you didn't wanna know about me.

1. I pee in the shower.
2. I pick my nose and sometimes I even eat it.
3. I have sex with my husband when my in-laws are visiting.
4. I hate to brush my teeth after I shower.
5. I don't always wash my hands after I use the toilet.
6. I use my frying pan without washing between uses.
7. I shave "down there" at my husband's request.
8. I rarely shave my legs.
9. I use the same utensil with both raw and cooked meat.
10. If given the choice I would choose to shower less often than I do currently, which is nightly.

Until next time,
The Lovely Lioness

Monday, May 3, 2010

The rantings and ravings from today....

Okay, so I am not in a wonderful mood.


Yesterday the kids decided to proclaim that they had cleaned their rooms. Maybe to their SPECIFICATIONS.. but not to mine! The "other half" decided that it was "okay" to allow video game time because they spent so much time on their room. Did not even look at it, was just going to give it to them to shut them up from whining. I kinda lost it.. went into the room after one of the kids started mouthing at me, took my arms to the flat surfaces and proceeded to swipe everything off onto the floor for them to clean today. I refused to let anything other than room cleaning happen. One of my dearest lambs decided to come out about 7 PM tonight and over joyously announce "Okay the room is CLEAN!!" only for me to go in and with out really looking find where they stashed all the stuff once again. Another sweep through the room to bring everything BACK out to the middle of the room. Another stern talking to and was told that they can spend EVERY DAY of their lives in that room until it's done to my specifications. Did I mention they already had to wash one load - wash, dry and put away, and they found 2 more loads today? It was an awful quiet night after that!

Well, before this site was even thought of, It was mentioned on one of my social pages that "if I don't have anything nice to say, then don't say it at all!" and I am not sure if she was talking to me or whatnot, BUT how can you say something like that and then turn around and say negative things on their own site? I am feeling pretty good right now since she has been hidden and one of her friends I did not care for anyways has been BLOCKED.... :O) One more mouthing off about my negativity and she will get the boot!

I have been wanting to tell everyone a little about myself, but sheesh with the family I am raising I don't know who I am anymore, and I guess I will have to do some sole searching to even get me to understand who I am... So until that's done, just let it be known that I am....

Da Cashewwww


This internet buddy I have has really pissed me off. She got her heart broken when her fiancee of 6 years just up and left. Now she is going on about an ex boyfriend who is an alcoholic and has been clean for a year. His wife has been very supportive of him and stayed throughout everything but is very untrusting. He and this internet buddy of mine have been "talking" against his wife's wishes. She thinks he needs a friend and will continue this relationship even though it is against his wife's wishes. WHAT A STUPID ARROGANT IDIOTIC BITCH! nuf said. I made my opinion clear but now I wanna "unfriend" and "unfollow" and "block" her! GRRRRRR. People think they get to play god with other family's lives! SHAME SHAME SHAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Who Is Mama Bear

Here is a little about who I am:

  • Tried to make everyone I meet laugh
  • Surrounded by children
  • Quick Tempered
  • Always smiling
  • Silly
  • Compassionate
  • Empathetic
  • Down to Earth
  • Non-judgmental
  • Peace Keeper
  • Never content to stay where I am
  • Tough, tough, tough
  • Insanely busy
  • Insomniac
  • Well Ordered (nice way of saying a bit OCD)
  • Faithful

Until next time,

Mama Bear

Funnies - My Desk

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Saturday, May 1, 2010

Who Is The Lovely Lioness?

Here is a little about who I am:

  • Too nice to those who are mean to me
  • Too mean to those who love me
  • Angry too often
  • Never smile enough
  • A lifestyle off the beaten path, a little
  • Opinions too strong for many
  • Unconventional in many ways 
  • A semi-free range parent
  • Not very creative
  • Always searching for answers
  • Never content to stay where I am
  • Learning to have joy daily
  • Not big on routine
  • Love to research

Until next time,

Lovely Lioness